Watching a Daughter Grow via MySpace
This week's series of conversations on adoption in America generated a number letters from listeners, including this one from Amie Pfeifer in San Francisco:.
"When I was 17 years old, I gave my daughter up for adoption. I physically handed my daughter over to her 'parents' when she was 3 days old. It was the happiest and saddest day of my life.
"I have begun craving knowledge of my daughter, but ... I've made a promise to her and to myself that it must be her choice if we are ever to meet.
An adopted child changes a family forever. Families and adoptees have learned that it's not just family photos that change — but entire family trees, family traditions and family stories that are altered by an adopted child's own story.
"To my great pleasure, Google came along and ... I've been able to follow my daughter's achievements ..., I was able to look in on her life and know without a doubt that I did right by her.
"One day she wrote on her MySpace page that she is very excited to meet her biological parents .... I long for the day to meet this incredible person that I had the privilege of bringing into this world."
STEVE INSKEEP, host:
One of the letters we received this week begins: Dear MORNING EDITION, all week long I've come awake listening to your adoption stories.
Amie Pfeifer of San Francisco responded to this week's conversations, which included stories of adopted children meeting their birth parents. Ms. Pfeifer writes: My story is almost the opposite. And she provides one final tale of adoption in America.
Miss Pfeifer writes that she was 17 when she gave up her daughter. It was an open adoption, meaning she met the adoptive family but she later kept away, hoping not to bother that family. She received an occasional photo of her daughter, nothing more. And then she adds, over the last several years, I have begun craving knowledge of my daughter.
And to my great pleasure, Google came along and changed my world. Thanks to the Internet, she writes, I've been able to follow my daughter's achievements through high school sports, academics and the arts. And even better, she has a MySpace page. I was able to look in on her life and know that I did right by her.
She turned 18 just over a month ago, and one day she wrote on her MySpace page that she would like to meet her biological parents. We haven't met yet. I need it to be her choice. But, Amie Pfeifer writes, I long for the day to meet this incredible person that I had the privilege of bringing into the world. Transcript provided by NPR, Copyright NPR.