Modern Love Encore: 'Friends Without Benefits'

The right person is worth waiting for. But how do you know who the "right" one is? How long are you supposed to wait?

Sometimes, you just have to live and learn, as Hannah Selinger can attest. She tells her story in her encore presentation of the Modern Love essay, "Friends Without Benefits."

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Taissa Farmiga can be seen now in Warren Beatty's new film "Rules Don't Apply." She recently starred in the New Group’s Off-Broadway revival of Sam Shepard’s Pulitzer Prize winning play "Buried Child," opposite Ed Harris, Amy Madigan and Nat Wolff, for director Scott Elliott. She can also be seen in the Sony comedy "The Final Girls," opposite Malin Ackerman, Adam Devine and Thomas Middleditch for director Todd Strauss-Schulson, as well as Hannah Fidell’s film, "6 Years," which was produced by Mark and Jay Duplass and acquired by Netflix. Both films premiered at the 2015 South by Southwest film festival. Taissa can next be seen in Warren Beatty’s "Untitled Feature" opposite Alden Ehrenreich and in Blumhouse’s revenge Western "In a Valley of Violence" opposite John Travolta and Ethan Hawke, for director Ti West, which premiered at this year’s South by Southwest film festival. Taissa broke out at Sundance 2011 in a memorable role in her feature film debut, "Higher Ground," released by Sony Pictures Classics. She then went on to star in the first and third seasons of Ryan Murphy's hit FX series "American Horror Story," opposite Jessica Lange. Taissa also starred opposite Emma Watson and Leslie Mann in "The Bling Ring" for director Sofia Coppola. She tweets @taissafarmiga.

Hannah Selinger is a freelance writer whose work has appeared in such publications as the New York Times, the Washington Post, the South Carolina Review, the South Dakota Review, Lullwater Review, the Newburyport Daily News, and RawStory.com. A certified sommelier through the Court of Master Sommeliers and an 8-time marathoner, Hannah’s passions include drinking wine, serving wine, and, occasionally, long distance running. She lives in Sag Harbor, New York with her boyfriend, Dan; their rescue mutt, Pickle; and their two Rhodesian Ridgebacks, Naja and Themba. She tweets @hannahleeselinger.