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The Infidelity Episodes: The Betrayed


Very few of us don't experience some form of it in our lives. And it's nearly always painful and disruptive. Many of the letters to Sugar are about infidelity, in its many forms and fallouts.

And so we are dedicating multiple episodes to infidelity. In this episode, Part 1, the Sugars consider letters from the Betrayed. They take questions from a woman who chose to stay with her husband after a betrayal, but has never fully recovered, and from a young mother who just discovered her husband hired a prostitute while she was away.

They're also joined by the writer and performer Lauren Weedman, who experienced one of the more nightmarish clichés of infidelity, and tells the story. In Part 2, the Sugars turn to the Betrayers.

Show notes

[0:01] “I Want A Little Sugar In My Bowl,” Nina Simone, 1967.

[3:29] “Touch. It is touch that is the deadliest enemy of chastity, loyalty, monogamy, gentility with its codes and conventions and restraints. By touch we are betrayed and betray others ... an accidental brushing of shoulders or touching of hands ... hands laid on shoulders in a gesture of comfort that lies like a thief, that takes, not gives, that wants, not offers, that awakes, not pacifies. When one flesh is waiting, there is electricity in the merest contact,” Wallace Stegner, "Angle of Repose," 1971.

[14:04] "Your Fool," Natalie Prass, "Natalie Prass," 2015.

[16:43] "O, what men dare do! What men may do! What men daily do, not knowing what they do!," William Shakespeare, "Much Ado About Nothing."

[25:34] Lauren Weedman, Twitter account.

[35:54] "There's only so many traumas a person can withstand until they take to the streets and start screaming," Woody Allen, "Blue Jasmine," 2013.

[40:05] "How To Love," Lil Wayne, "Tha Carter IV," 2011.

[40:57] "Dept. Of Speculation," Jenny Offill, 2014.

New episodes of Dear Sugar Radio are released weekly.

Lisa Tobin Senior Podcast Producer
Lisa Tobin was formerly WBUR's senior podcast producer.



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