Speaking The Unspeakable: 'Shadow Weddings' Before The Big Day08:54
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November 05, 2013

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Jessica Wolk and Jim Benson on their real wedding day, which they call their "light wedding." (Courtesy of the Bensons)

Jessica Wolk and Jim Benson after their "shadow wedding." (Courtesy of the Bensons)

Wedding rituals are many: The bachelor and bachlorette parties. The toasts. The dressing up in rags and confessing your innermost demons.

OK, that last one is not yet a trend or tradition, but one couple wants to make it one. They call it a "shadow wedding" -- an intimate ceremony and confessional that takes place before the big day.

Married couple Jessica Wolk Benson and Jim Benson join Here & Now's Robin Young to make their unusual pitch.

Guest

Jessica Wolk Benson, marriage and family therapist in San Francisco.
Jim Benson, sex and relationship coach for men, based in the Bay Area.

This segment aired on November 5, 2013.

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