Marry A Man Who Loves His Mother | With Constance Wu

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(Brian Rea for The New York Times)
(Brian Rea for The New York Times)

You can choose your significant other, but you can't choose your in-laws. When free-spirit Artis Henderson first met her future mother-in-law — a conservative church-goer — they didn't exactly hit it off. But she never could have imagined the event that would bring them together.

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Constance Wu (AP/Jordan Strauss)
Constance Wu (AP/Jordan Strauss)

As a result of her unapologetic and hilarious portrayal of ‘Jessica Huang’ on ABC’s hit comedy “Fresh Off the Boat,” the spotlight on Constance Wu is brighter than ever in her first foray into comedy. The third season of “Fresh Off The Boat” premiered on ABC on Tuesday, October 11th, 2016. Wu will reprise her role as the family matriarch and mother of three opposite Randall Park. Based on Eddie Huang’s memoir, the show is set in the 1990’s and revolves around a Taiwanese family that moves to suburban Orlando. The series debuted in February 2015 to much critical acclaim and garnered 8 million viewers, becoming the second highest rated comedy to premiere during the season.

Wu was instantly praised as the breakout star of the comedy season for her interpretation as the no-nonsense, pragmatic mom and has received two nominations from the Critics’ Choice Television Award for ‘Best Actress in a Comedy’ in 2015 as well as a TCA Award for ‘Individual Achievement in Comedy’ in 2015 and 2016. Most recently, Constance Wu joined the cast in Hulu’s sci-fi/fantasy anthology series "Dimension 404." Wu is the lead in a stand-alone episode in which she plays ‘Jane,’ a military psychologist on active duty, who wants nothing more than to spend Christmas leave with her wife and daughter. Wu will co-star along with Megan Mullally. Next, Wu will be seen in the indie thriller “All the Creatures Were Stirring” from directors David Ian McKendry and Rebekah McKendry. The thriller follows a group of strangers who find themselves encountering monsters and misfortunes on the night before Christmas. The film is set to release this year.

Wu also recently completed two independent films, the first being the upcoming untitled independent comedy from director Jenée LaMarque where she will portray a bride on a bachelorette weekend which goes awry. She will also be seen in “You and Me Both” – an independent road trip film where she will play a struggling addict who, along with her sister, embarks on a road trip from Iowa to Alaska in search of their birth mother. Wu was born and raised in Richmond, Virginia where she grew up performing in the local community theatre scene. At 16, she moved to New York to study at the famed Lee Strasberg Theatre Institute and the Conservatory for Theatre Arts at S.U.N.Y Purchase. While in New York, she worked in classical theatre and quickly transitioned to film. She soon appeared in several Sundance Feature Films including “Stephanie Daley,” and “Year of the Fish.” In 2010, she moved to Los Angeles where her theatre and film background helped land her a role in another Sundance Feature, “The Sound of My Voice.” She next appeared a series regular on the LogoTV web series, “East Siders,” and the Fox Digital Studios film, “Parallels,” which was released by Netflix on March 3rd, 2015. In addition to her indie films, Wu has had memorable guest appearances on “Children’s Hospital,” “Law & Order: SVU,” “Torchwood,” “Covert Affairs,” and “Franklin & Bash.” She currently resides in Silverlake, Los Angeles with her pet bunny, Lida Rose.

(Courtesy of Artis Henderson)
(Courtesy of Artis Henderson)

Artis Henderson is the author of the memoir Unremarried Widow, a New York Times Editors' Choice named to more than 10 Best of the Year Lists. She lives in Southwest Florida, where she writes full-time.

Letter to Artis from her husband Miles Henderson:

My Dearest Artis,

I love you. I love you so very much! Oh Babe, I don’t think that I could ever convey just how much I love you and how blessed I felt to be with you, no matter how much I wrote.

You are the love of my life. It was such a privilege and pleasure to be your ‘Super Friend’, your teammate and especially your husband. The joy you brought into my life was immeasurable and the adventures that we shared were beyond my wildest imagination. The few years that we were able to spend together were absolutely the best of my life and I owe that all to you.

Despite a job as a soldier that was so demanding on both of us, despite living in places that left much to be desired, and despite some of our adventures turning into near catastrophes (mostly due to me, and most turned out to be fun anyway), being with you made it worth it all and kept me looking forward to every day.

(Courtesy of Artis Henderson)
(Courtesy of Artis Henderson)

I greatly regret that I had to go so soon when I know that we would have continued to grow together and share our lives with each other everyday, enjoying adventures like only the two of us can. I died doing something that I believe is very honorable, worthwhile, and necessary. I pray that in my life and death I saved others’ lives and kept a few from every having to experience this war. I just regret that it had to come at the price of causing you any pain. The last thing I ever wanted to do was hurt you in any way.

Please do not feel angry or ask questions about why, instead rely on God for comfort and strength always. Live your life to the fullest, and know that I will be looking upon you always and doing everything I can to smooth your way.

You are the most gorgeous, talented and smart young woman I know. I always felt so privileged and honored to be with you wherever we were. I hope I was able to make you feel safe and special whenever we were together. Please forgive me for the times when I fell short of this goal. Know that I am infinitely sorry for any pain that I have ever caused you. Your joy was my number one priority.

Live your life on earth to the max. You have so many options with what to do with your life. Pursue your dreams wisely, with all your heart, with honor and with decency.

I will love you forever, look on you always, and see you soon. I love you. No worries!

Miles Henderson

Jessica Alpert Managing Producer, Program Development
Jessica Alpert is the managing producer for program development at WBUR. In this position, she develops new podcasts and programs while also launching and nurturing WBUR’s newest projects.



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