The Stanford rape case swept headlines last month and reignited a national conversation on sexual assault. It resonated with countless people in deeply personal and painful ways.
The Sugars respond to a letter they received during the flurry of media attention on the case. The writer — who calls herself "Survivor, Lover, Feminist" — has just been told by her long-time partner and best friend that, when he was in high school, he got "black-out drunk" and raped a girl who was drunk and unconscious. "Survivor, Lover, Feminist" is, herself, a survivor of sexual assault. She asks the Sugars if rapists can truly be reformed and how she can justify loving one.
[5:50] Roxane Gay, Purdue University.
[21:19] "The Girl on the Plane," Mary Gaitskills, "Because They Wanted To," 1997.
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